A few days ago I was sitting at a ‘beach’ next to Lake Victoria finishing a book by Robin Sharma called The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari. In this book Robin uses a spiritual fable of a most extraordinary garden with lighthouses, naked sumo wrestlers and roses to symbolize the “Seven Timeless Virtuous of Enlightened Living” as he calls it. Thinking about the contents of the book and how most of it makes perfect sense in this rat race we all seem to have gotten ourselves involved, I decided to write an adapted version for my son who I believe will not only benefit from these virtues, but who would much better relate to a beach scene than a garden scene.
"Just imagine the most beautiful beach you have ever seen. The water is crystal clear with a deep blue colour and behind a reef the most perfect sets of waves are coming through one after the other. The sun is bright and shiny and there are no clouds in the sky. The glistening of the sun’s rays on the waves as they effortlessly push their way through to the beach practically blinds you, but your mind is captured by the perfectly hollow waves. On one of the waves a broad shouldered surfer is catching a perfect right hander. The surfer with his tanned body is wearing a necklace with a shiny white shark tooth that contrasts his brown skin. As he makes his way towards the beach through a couple of overhead tubes, he reaches the beach with golden sand. He tries to pick up a handful, but the sand slips through his fingers like it always does when he tries to take some home. Amazed by the sand he hardly sees the blonde mermaid on the beach who looks like she has washed up hours before and can’t get back to the cooling sea water by herself. He immediately rushes to her, wipes her face with his wet salty hands and carries her back into the ocean in his strong arms. He sits down on the golden sand and watches as a dozen dolphins circle around her as they swim off into the deep blue ocean. He sat there in awe until long after the sun had set into the blue water. If you have read the book then you might agree that the beach scene with a beautiful blonde mermaid will go down better with a 5-year old little beach boy than a beautiful garden and a naked sumo wrestler "with a pink wire around his private parts". The meaning of the symbols however I think is more important than the symbol themselve, so here are the 7 Virtues of Enlightened Living…
To my son: Don’t be scared of the dark my son. Always think about all the nice things you like. Think about the birds and skateboards and motorbikes, about sea horses and Lego blocks. Always think about nice things, no matter how bad it looks.
If there is anything in our universe that has a purpose, then it must be the sun. Like the sun in the fable, having purpose in life is having reason to live. “The purpose of life is a life of purpose”. Set yourself personal, professional and spiritual goals. Write them down and refer to them often. Give yourself a reason to wake up in the mornings. Know what you want out of life and go for it. Do not idle. Make yourself happy, find a job you love, make other people happy. Work every day to reach your goals, and set new ones if you have to. Be courageous and never back down from challenges.To my son: Try and be a good boy forever. Say please and thank you every time. Work hard to be an adorable child to Mommy and Daddy, and be a good friend to your friends at school. Be true to yourself and be a happy child that always laughs.
The broad shouldered surfer symbolizes the art of looking after yourself; your mind, your body and your soul. Do not compare yourself with others, but always compare yourself with the “old” you. Build the strength of your character, develop mental toughness and live with courage. Run your own race. Live life with passion, whatever you do, do it with passion. Conquer your fear to achieve the things that makes you a better person. To achieve this, follow the “Ten Rituals for Radiant Living”:1) Allow yourself a daily period of solitude. Find time to sit down and relax, to reflect and to clear your thoughts – Ritual of Solitude
2) Look after your body. Exercise daily. Refrain from taking any substance that will have a negative effect on your health – Ritual of Physicality
3) Watch what you eat. What goes into your body radiates in your actions and well-being. Live a life of moderation and not extremes – Ritual of Live Nourishment
4) Acquire a taste for knowledge. Never stop wondering, analyzing, questioning. Read as much as you can, watch informative programs and listen to the opinions of others. Be prepared to use the knowledge in difficult situations and stay clear of the garbage we find on TV and in magazines. Be very selective, but be open to everything – Ritual of Abundant Knowledge
5) Take time to reflect. Use your 15 minutes of solitude or your drive to work to think about your life, about the negative things you did and want to change, about your goals in life and how you are progressing. Don’t look for your failures in different places, find it in yourself and plan to improve – Ritual of Personal Reflection
6) Wake up early. No, there is no morning or evening people. Wake up early and experience the freshness of each new day. Wake up before the sun and the birds and prepare yourself for the day ahead. Do not start your day at the back of the race – Ritual of Early Awakening
7) Listen to music. Use music to uplift your spirit. Move your body and enjoy the rhythms. No matter what your taste it, if it makes you feel good, listen to it. If it irritates you or make you morbid, switch it off – Ritual of Music
8) Memorize uplifting sayings and quotes. Write it down and refer to it when times are hard. Say it our load if you have to, but use it as they usually have much value – Rituals of the Spoken Word
9) Build your character. Adopt good qualities and live them. Stop your bad habits immediately and focus on acquiring good ones. Do anything that cultivates your virtues. Live a life congruent to the principles of compassion, humility, patience, honesty and courage. Be approachable and be friendly, be a person of integrity - Ritual of Congruent Character
9) Build your character. Adopt good qualities and live them. Stop your bad habits immediately and focus on acquiring good ones. Do anything that cultivates your virtues. Live a life congruent to the principles of compassion, humility, patience, honesty and courage. Be approachable and be friendly, be a person of integrity - Ritual of Congruent Character
10) Simplify your life. Remove all the clutter. Remove your facebook friends that do not even remember your birthday if you have to, or the ones that do not inspire you or enrich your life. Throw away the stuff that you don’t use anymore. Avoid complicated relationships. Separate the wheat from the chuff and live a simple easy life. Stop following the trends and ignore the celebrities and what they do. Do not compare your life with other. Be content with less – Ritual of Simplicity
To my son: My son, keep watching the ants on the floor and never stop looking for the moon at night. Keep on exploring forever, never stop playing games and never worry about tomorrow. Continue with your sometimes irritating question: “Why, why, why?” Run around and have fun, never sit around and do nothing. Throw away your broken toys and give the ones you don’t use to people that can use them…and always eat your good food first.
The shark tooth necklace refers to self-discipline. Wear it as a reminder to always do the things you have to do, before you do the things you want to do. Having discipline is having freedom. Discipline gives you the freedom to eat your desert before your meal, because you have the discipline to finish your meal as well. It gives you the freedom to first chat to your mates before you start studying for tomorrow’s test, because discipline already made you look at your work when it was discussed in class. Self-discipline will provide you with the mental reserves required when life throws you one of its little curves. Self-control is mind control. When you master your mind you master your life.To my son: Brush your teeth before you go to sleep even when Mommy does not say so and pack away your toys every time you have finished playing with them. Finish your food before you ask for desert. When you are grown-up and have discipline, you can eat it before your good food.
Just like the golden sand slipped through the fingers of the surfer, so does time slip through our fingers. It is our most precious commodity and once wasted, you never get it back. Live every moment you have, don’t wait till later. Be productive, be time conscious. Plan your day and do something productive when you have “time on your hands”. Never leave anything for tomorrow unless it is replaced by something of greater value. Make time for your friends and your family. Live as if there is no tomorrow. To my son: You never waste one minute of your day. From the time your eyes open until they close, you are busy. Be like that for the rest of your life….
To my son: Thank you for helping me start the “braaivleis” fire every time. I know cannot do it without you.
To my son: At the moment living in the now doesn’t matter to you my child, your past has no importance to you and your future only goes to the amount of sleeps you can count. If we all only could all live in the now like a child does. But you will grow up and soon you will have created a past and a possible concern for the future. DON’T. Keep living for the moment and take each day and each hour and each minute as it comes.
